Adjusting After Baby Makes Three

After months and months of patiently waiting for your little one to make her grand entrance… the big day has finally arrived! As well as experiencing the exhilaration that comes with first laying eyes on your newborn baby, you may also find yourself curiously wondering how this new addition to your family will change your lives forever. If this is the case, read on!

Becoming a family of three will result in some of the most profound changes you’ll ever experience. Every aspect of life will change, and you may find yourselves referencing life “before” and “after” bub was born.


Over time, you may find that “date’ nights with your significant other will change from being a glamourous dolled-up affair, to ordering take-out and watching a movie at home. Even then, you’ll probably fall asleep before the grand finale!

You may find the interests of your childless friends drift in different directions, as they hop to the latest bar on a whim, or take-off on a road trip every other weekend. Times have changed for you, and you’ll likely find your friendship circles may too. Try not to be surprised (or disheartened) by this, as it’s a natural course for many new parents. There may be wonderful opportunities later on to reconnect with people whom you may not see quite as often these days.


Nothing may seem easy ever again! Doing the grocery shopping, getting to work in time, even the simple things in life, can seem complicated. Each outing requires precision planning, and timing is key when catering for a newborn. Prepare, plan, and then plan some more! This will help you feel more confident, and will make your trips out more enjoyable for the three of you.


Your child will become your number one priority, and feeding, clothing, and providing a safe home for your little one will take great importance. Setting up a budget will become even more significant, and you may not have quite as many spare pennies to spend on yourselves as “before” baby (there’s that lingo popping up already!).


You’ll be on 24 hour – 7 day a week duty, as your baby’s needs never stop. Feeding, cleaning, providing rest and stimulation, your days and nights will be tuned into your baby’s biorhythms. You’ll learn to function on less sleep than you ever thought possible, and over time this can take a toll on your mind and your body.


Functioning on minimal sleep for a prolonged period of time, is unlikely to bode well for anyone! We all need our sleep, as well as some time out every now and then. You may experience a depth of love you’ve never experienced before, as well as an intense, indescribable connection to your little one. You may feel pressure to care for them in a ‘perfect’ way, which can cause unnecessary emotional stresses from time to time. You’ll also watch your little one grow up before your eyes, and this can be so overwhelmingly exciting, that you’ll want to share in every minute of their day.

As time goes on, you’ll learn to multi-task like you never have before, and your organizational skills will become impeccable! You’ll start to enjoy simple things at home as a couple rather than an exciting night life, and you’ll learn to appreciate every aspect of human development. Most importantly, now’s the time to enjoy this time together as a new family. With some planning and preparation, you’ll be able to sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride!